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50 Facts About Domestic Violence

  1. Number of U.S. troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq: 6,614:
  2. Number of women, in the same period, killed as the result of domestic violence in the US: 11,766
  3. Number of people per minute who experience intimate partner violence in the U.S.: 24
  4. Number of workplace violence incidents in the U.S. annually that are the result of current or past intimate partner assaults: 18,700
  5. Number of women in the U.S. who report intimate partner violence: 1 in 4
  6. Number of men in the U.S. who report intimate partner violence: 1 in 7*
  7. Number of women who will experience partner violence worldwide: 1 in 3
  8. Order of causes of death for European women ages 16-44: domestic violence, cancer, traffic accidents
  9. Increase in likelihood that a woman will die a violent death if a gun in present in the home: 270 percent
  10. Number of women killed by spouses who were shot by guns kept by men in the home in France and South Africa: 1 in 3
  11. Percentage of the 900 million small arms that are kept in the home, worldwide: 75
  12. Country in which 943 women were killed in honor killings in 2011: Pakistan
  13. City in which man "butchered" his wife in front of their six children in 2012: Berlin

    One in every four women

    An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.

    85% of domestic violence victims are women.

    Historically, females have been most often victimized by someone they knew.

    Females who are 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk of nonfatal intimate partner violence.

    Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.


    will experience domestic violence in her lifetime



    Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, family violence, and intimate partner violence (IPV), has been broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence, so defined, has many forms, including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation. Alcohol consumption and mental illness can be co-morbid with abuse, and present additional challenges when present alongside patterns of abuse.

    Awareness, perception, definition and documentation of domestic violence differs widely from country to country, and from era to era. According to some studies, less that 1 percent of domestic violence cases are reported to the police. According to the Centers for Disease Control, domestic violence is a serious, preventable public health problem affecting more than 25 million American women.




    Witnessing violence between one’s parents or caretakers is the strongest risk factor of transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next.7

    Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults.8

    30% to 60% of perpetrators of intimate partner violence also abuse children in the household.9



    Almost one-third of female homicide victims that are reported in police records are killed by an intimate partner.14

    In 70-80% of intimate partner homicides, no matter which partner was killed, the man physically abused the woman before the murder.12

    Less than one-fifth of victims reporting an injury from intimate partner violence sought medical treatment following the injury.15

    Intimate partner violence results in more than 18.5 million mental health care

     visits each year.16



    One in 6 women and 1 in 33 men

    Nearly 7.8 million women have been raped by an intimate partner at some point in their lives.11

    Sexual assault or forced sex occurs in approximately 40-45% of battering relationships.12

    1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men have been stalked in their lifetime.13

    81% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also physically assaulted by that partner; 31% are also sexually assaulted by that partner.13


    have experienced an attempted or completed rape.10 



    What are the Major Types of Child Abuse and Neglect?

    Within the minimum standards set by CAPTA, each state is responsible for providing its own definitions of child abuse and neglect1. Most states recognize four major types of maltreatment; physical abuse, neglect, sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Some states also specify substance abuse or abandonment by the caretaker as an element of abuse and/or neglect. Although any of the forms of child maltreatment may be found separately, they often occur in combination.

    The examples provided herein are for general informational purposes only. Not all states' definitions will include all of the examples listed and individual states definitions may cover additional situations not mentioned here. Click on links for more detailed definitions and examples of abuse.

    Physical Abuse

    Physical injury that results in substantial harm to the child

    Emotional Abuse

    Mental or emotional injury that results in observable and material growth impairment


    Leaving children in situations where they could be exposed to a substantial risk of physical or mental harm

    Sexual Abuse

    Sexual conduct harmful to a child's mental, emotional or physical welfare

    Substance Abuse

    Substance abuse is an element of the definition of child abuse or neglect in some states2


    Abandonment is now included in some states' definition of abuse and/or neglect

    “If you can’t be thankful for what you have, be thankful for what you have—escaped,” Menard’s Catalog (beneath the contractor compressor)
    The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. by Mark Caine – author
    Real confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself- your strengths and your limitations –in contrast to depending on affirmation from others. Judith Bardwick- the Plateauing Trap 8, 1988
    Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities because, as has been said, it is the quality which guarantees all others. Winston Churchill
    “Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be.” Charles Jones.
    “Domestic violence causes far more pain than the visible marks of bruises and scars. It is devastating to be abused by someone that you love and think loves you in return. It is estimated that approximately 3 million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year in the United States.”
    – Dianne Feinstein
    “Domestic violence does not only happen to adults. Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend, and approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.”
    – Dianne Feinstein
    “If the numbers we see in domestic violence were applied to terrorism or gang violence, the entire country would be up in arms, and it would be the lead story on the news every night.”
    – Rep. Mark Green
    Every woman who thinks she is the only victim of violence has to know that there are many more.
    – Salma Hayek
    There is a subconscious way of taking violence as a way of expression, as a normality, and it has a lot of effects in the youth in the way they absorb education and what they hope to get out of life.
    – Salma Hayek
    “One in three women may suffer from abuse and violence in her lifetime. This is an appalling human rights violation, yet it remains one of the invisible and under-recognized pandemics of our time.”  Violence against women is an appalling human rights violation. But it is not inevitable. We can put a stop to this.”
    – Nicole Kidman
    Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.”
    – Herbert Ward
    That’s all nonviolence is – organized love.
    – Joan Baez
    I would say that I’m a nonviolent soldier. In place of weapons of violence, you have to use your mind, your heart, your sense of humor, every faculty available to you…because no one has the right to take the life of another human being.
    – Joan Baez
    The world censures those who take up arms to defend their causes and calls on them to use nonviolent means in voicing their grievances. But when a people chooses the nonviolent path, it is all too often the case that hardly anyone pays attention. It is tragic that people have to suffer and die and the television cameras have to deliver the pictures to people’s homes every day before the world at large admits there is a problem.
    – Bishop Carlos Belo
    Non-violence can truly flourish when the world is free of poverty, hunger, discrimination, exclusion, intolerance and hatred – when women and men can realize their highest potential and live a secure and fulfilling life. Until then, each and every one of us would have to contribute – collectively and individually – to build peace through non-violence.
    – Anwarul Chowdhury
    Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.
    – Cherie Carter-Scott
    The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less.
    – Elderidge Cleaver
    We plant seeds that will flower as results in our lives, so best to remove the weeds of anger, avarice, envy and doubt, that peace and abundance may manifest for all.
    – Dorothy Day
    For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
    Hope is the strongest driving force for a people. Hope which brings about change, which produces new realities, is what opens man’s road to freedom. Once hope has taken hold, courage must unite with wisdom. That is the only way of avoiding violence, the only way of maintaining the calm one needs to respond peacefully to offenses.
    – Oscar Arias Sanchez
    None who have always been free can understand the terrible fascinating power of the hope of freedom to those who are not free.
    – Pearl S. Buck
    We are asking people to understand that slavery still exists today; in fact, according to a recent New York Times article, if you count the number of women and children in bonded labor, domestic slavery or sexual slavery today, there are more slaves in the world than at any other time in history.”
    – Charlotte Bunch
    Everyone has a right to peaceful coexistence, the basic personal freedoms, the alleviation of suffering, and the opportunity to lead a productive life…”
    – Jimmy Carter
    “How many years can some people exist
    before they’re allowed to be free…”
    – Bob Dylan

    You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:

    • Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
    • Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
    • Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
    • Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
    • Does not want you to work.
    • Controls finances or refuses to share money.
    • Punishes you by withholding affection.
    • Expects you to ask permission.
    • Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
    • Humiliates you in any way.

    You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:

    • Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
    • Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
    • Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
    • Scared you by driving recklessly.
    • Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
    • Forced you to leave your home.
    • Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
    • Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
    • Hurt your children.
    • Used physical force in sexual situations.

    You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:

    • Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
    • Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
    • Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
    • Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
    • Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
    • Held you down during sex.
    • Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
    • Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
    • Involved other people in sexual activities with you.
    • Ignored your feelings regarding sex.

    If you answered ‘yes’ to these questions you may be in an abusive relationship; please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) or your local domestic violence center to talk with someone about it.